wewillfloat-deactivated20111020 asked: This might be a little long winded, so I'm sorry in advance.
You're the reason I made a weight loss blog, your posts inspired me so much and I've been following you this whole time. I've wanted to ask for your help for a long time, but I was too embarrassed, now I'm desperate and scared.
I was ok for awhile, I did well, I felt good. I was doing everything right. I seem to have a 'fitblr' a healthy weight loss blog, but its been 6 months, and I've only lost 7 pounds, because I binge. All the time. I don't know if theres something wrong with me or if I'm just greedy. I'll starve one day and the next I'll eat until I can't stand up straight. I dont undereat often, but when I do, it feels wrong but I still enjoy it. I feel disgusting. And its all so shameful. I get so upset if I can't eat when I feel like I need to, and I think about food every second of the day. Its gotten progressively worse over this time, and I've never had such overwhelming feelings of self loathing before. Nothing in the world matters to me more than losing weight but I cant stop this.
I'm sorry if this is out of line, reaching out to a stranger but I have nowhere else to go now and I cant do this anymore. Please can you give me some advice? I would appreciate it more than anything. Thank you if you can, I hope you are well.
Hey lovely!
Thank you for following! I used to binge all the damn time too. I’d be SO GOOD all day, and then at about 11pm I’d come home from work exhausted and eat everything I could, even when I was full.
It seems like you know the answer to this. And it’s not that you’re greedy. Do you think maybe it’s just that you’re hungry?
My heart goes out to you because you sound just like I used to be. When I got hungry, I turned into a megabitch. I couldn’t focus without having eaten or knowing when I was going to eat, and if someone else had food in front of me, I wanted it. I was always hungry, but I felt like a pig.
If food is the enemy to you, then every bite you put in your mouth feels like it’s bad. That’s wrong thought #1. You cannot shame yourself into eating right. You just can’t.
And here’s a bit of tough love: you shouldn’t feel good when you undereat, because it slows your metabolism, lowers your blood sugar so that it holds onto fat, and puts your body out of whack. Stop feeling good about it. Stop telling yourself it’s an accomplishment; it’s not.
A few of the things I did to fight binges:
1. “Binge” on healthy things. Allow yourself to eat as many apple slices as you want. Fruits and veggies are amazingly filling, especially spinach and baby carrots. And the more you eat them, the more you grow to love them.
2. Exercise. You’ll find that when you exercise, your mind will start shifting into healthy happy mode, rather than restriction mode. And you will want to eat to fuel your body. Don’t skimp on this advice. It is truly a mind-altering habit to take up.
3. Speak to your mind. Tell yourself that you love yourself. Daily affirmations may make you feel lame, but your thoughts are your life. If your head is saying you’re a pig, tell it to shut the fuck up, because you’re not. You really aren’t.
This is a war sweetheart. If you want to lose weight for health reasons, then begin to exercise and up your intake of veggies, fruits, whole grains, and lean protein. When you feed your body enough of the right things, you will begin to stop feeling the need to binge.
It’s a journey, but it’s so worth it.
<3elle
PS Never feel shame asking a stranger for help. Be proud that you have recognized a problem and you want to change it.
